Devasted mother’s plea for advice after her daughter was rejected

It can be a bit of a minefield when it comes to helping your children navigate issues with their friendships.

While it’s usually our first instinct to want to jump in and solve things for them, knowing how to actually do that can feel virtually impossible.

A devastated mom has issued a heartfelt plea for other parents to share their advice with her after her little girl was rejected by her friends.

“My daughter is four and has these little girls around our neighborhood who I thought she got along great with,” Kat Kamalani shares in her viral TikTok video.

“If you’re a parent and have kids I need your help. Why is parenting so hard?”

“My daughter was rejected by her friends”

Kamalani went on to explain that she hasn’t stopped crying since an incident happened between her daughter and her friends.

“I looked out the window and I saw a couple of the girls putting their hands out like they didn’t want to play with her, so I walked over there and they were telling her she’s not allowed to play with them because they didn’t want her to,” she says, fighting back tears.

“She was devastated and crying and asking me why her friends don’t like her and why she can’t play with them.

“I didn’t even know how to respond. I said everyone sometimes makes mistakes and sometimes people aren’t feeling the best and then they treat other people not so nicely and you can’t control that.”

Parents give their advice to mum

Kamalani wanted to know what other parents do in similar situations as she navigates this tricky time with her daughter.

“I think you handled it perfectly – I always told my kids you can’t control what others do or say so leave the situation,” one person responded.

“It’s so hard. You did well. And I always make sure to tell my girls ‘please never make someone else feel that way, remember how this feels,” added another.

A third added: “I tell my son ‘not everyone is going to be your friend, but that’s why we be kind to everyone so they don’t feel the way you’re feeling now.” 

Meanwhile, others offered funnier ways to get back at the other children who didn’t let Kamalani’s daughter play.

“I’m petty,” one mum admitted. “I’d be dragging a bounce house out front and letting my kid go HAM in it and when those kids want to play I’d be like ‘no go away.’”